800-448-3000Split Up Parents' Fight
Question
Please help me with an overwhelming challenge to get over. Okay so last night I had to split up my parents fighting. After I saw my dad put his hands on my mom, I was overwhelmed with sadness and anger, and after I threatened to call the cops on him he left. I basically told him to get out of the house. So today I honestly don't want to talk to my dad nor really see him. Please give me advice on how to get past this because this has left me emotionally drained and a little scared of my dad, even though I don't think he would ever hurt me. Is it even normal to experience these emotions? Honestly I could not sleep just thinking about all of this.
Counselor response
We are so sorry to hear of the situation you have been placed into. The next time this situation occurs – do not hesitate to call police – your safety and your mom's safety are of utmost importance. Children should not have to take the responsibility to stop adults (the parents) from arguing or fighting. In the future do not warn that you are going to call police – just do it.
As to the feelings you are having – they are normal for ANY person experiencing domestic violence. Right now, put your focus on using coping skills any time the fear or uneasiness threatens to overwhelm you.
Focus on managing your basic emotions, using coping skills, eating nutritious foods and getting good sleep. That focus will help you to be strong when things are out of your control.
Stay safe!
Karen, counselor