Severe Issues With My Parents

We are so glad that you reached out today.  It is not easy reaching out when you are struggling, but we are glad that you did.  It is unfortunate when you are not receiving the support that you deserve from your parents.  

One option to try to stop this verbal abuse is to sit down with your parents and let them know how their comments make you feel.  Do this at a time when everything is calm, and try to remain as unemotional as possible.  Try not to be accusatory; just state how their words make you feel.

You can also write your parents a letter and let them know how hurtful their words are to you.  Hopefully this will help, but you also have to be prepared for a negative response.  If they do not give you the response that you want and deserve, then you should develop some additional coping skills to deal with the situation.

It is important to surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive.  Are there any relatives that live near you that can provide you with emotional support?  Also, is there another trusted adult or close friend that you can talk to?   You need those support systems around you when your parents are unkind to you. 

Try to evaluate your situation.  At your age, you are able to get a job and move out on your own if you feel this would be a better situation for you.  If you don't have a job yet, start checking what is available in your area.  If you are attending college, look into living on campus and doing a work program in the summer for the college so you can live on campus year round.  If you feel that you are not ready for a job or college, look into Job Corps.  Each state has their own location and program.  If you need the phone number for this, give us a call we will help you find it.

We want you to know that we are here for you.  Please take care and let us know how you are doing. 

Nancy, counselor