800-448-3000Overwhelmed By My Family's Past
Question
I have had so much stress from everything since softball has stopped. Now I having to think about everything that is happening. It gets to me. This year I have went through a lot.I have lost so muchthat meant somuch to me and I feel so alone. Mymom isn't really here for me and my dad isn't really a person I can see that often.Irecentlyfound out that my dad'sdad killed my dad'smom when my dadwas little and that affectedme so much. My mom has never been that mom I can talk to. Myfriends don't really care.I just need someone to tell me its gonna be okay because I feel all alone.
Counselor response
It sure sounds like you have a lot going on in your life and thinking about it all, past and present, has got you very overwhelmed. Sometimes when we get overwhelmed in our thoughts, it can sure make you feel very alone. We understand. We're glad you reached out to talk. You came to the right place.
Maybe when you start to feel overwhelmed you can start to think about the things that you can control. What is happening in your life that is in your control or realistically, what can you do about that particular situation. So, for example, you can't control that softball has stopped. It doesn't mean that you can't ever play, it just means that you have to find something else to fill that time. Maybe toss the ball with someone, go for a walk or run, do something that gets you to be physical since you won't be physical on the field. You can control that.
As for your family's past, you can't control that. You may have some questions to help you understand the situation better but you can't change the situation. Just learn from it and spend some time asking your mom some questions that might open the door to communicating better with her. Dad too if you can.
Bottom line, you control what you can and let go of what you can't . Take care of yourself in the midst of it all and be good to your body. Your feelings are normal. You're okay. Don't work yourself up about them. It's perfectly fine to feel whatever you are feeling. Take some time to read through this tip: Your Feelings Are OK.
Know that we are here for you. You can call and talk with one of our counselors. We have our text service open 24/7 now and you can reach out that way or continue to email. Whatever works for you. We are here.
Check out the YLYV website and see what you can find to help. There's a lot on there to assist you with whatever you are going through.
Take care,
Naina, counselor