800-448-3000Had To Grow Up Too Fast
Question
I feel like I've had to grow up too fast. My mom gets upset with me when I try to talk about how the problems in our lives affect me (income, schedules, disability, etc) I understand that she has a lot on her plate, I feel like I end up making it worse. I can't be an extra adult in the house all the time. I'm still a kid.
Counselor response
We are glad you decided to reach out for support. It sounds like you are feeling really conflicted between your own feelings and your mothers about what is going on in your home. It can be very challenging for everyone in the home to manage incomes, schedules and disabilities. Your right that it can be helpful to talk about how those things are effecting you both.
These matters can be a sensitive topic for all parties involved but it is important to express how you are feeling. It makes sense that you would still want to experience the things other young people do. I am sure that was very hard to have to grow up young based on the circumstances around you. When talking to your mom it is important to pick an appropriate time, to be mindful of moods, and avoid blaming. Try to use "I feel" statements so she does not feel that you are saying it is all her fault. The hope is for you to have a constructive conversation that involves compromise and hopefully a desirable outcome for you both. Try to brainstorm ways that would still allow you to help your mom but would also give you some freedom. Sometimes just a little give and take makes a big difference.
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Brittany, Counselor